Complaining: The Broken Chair of Life

Imagine this: you’re in a room, and there’s a chair that’s visibly broken.

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You have a choice—sit in it and endure its shortcomings, avoid it altogether, or roll up your sleeves and fix it.

Complaining, much like sitting in that broken chair, is a choice.

When you complain, you are essentially opting to sit in the discomfort, to moan about it without making a change. While it might provide a temporary sense of release, it does nothing to solve the underlying issue.

When you complain, you're allowing a momentary feeling of anger or dissatisfaction to latch onto your soul. It may start as a bit of frustration or annoyance, but it lodges itself into your psyche, staying with you longer than you’d like.

A few seconds of anger can leave imprints that last weeks, months, or even extend to a lifetime of irrational responses. This happens because negative emotions like anger and stress release hormones that echo throughout your body, affecting your mood and mental well-being for longer than you might wish.

By constantly sitting in the ‘broken chair’ of complaining, you’re giving away your power.

Each complaint gives room for external environments or other people's decisions to control your emotional landscape. Instead of taking charge of your actions and feelings, you're letting others dictate them, effectively handing over your personal freedom and peace.

The real strength lies in choosing not to complain. In walking past that broken chair or, better yet, fixing it, you decide to control what you can. You recognise your ability to make choices that benefit your well-being.

Changing the lens from which you view the world helps prevent others from controlling how you feel and react.

Embracing an attitude of resilience and responsibility allows you to live a life of self-empowerment. It’s about learning to tap into your inner strength and choosing not to be a victim of circumstances. Accept what you can’t change, and release it without letting it linger in your heart or mind longer than it needs to. This is where true freedom lives.

So when you feel anger, indign, frustration and other negative feelings arising, remember this:

“Control what you can control and that you cannot, forget”.

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